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~ 今天，有人對我說了一些有關於我的缺點，也給了我一些建議。
給建議的人希望我能夠有一些回饋，雖然我很謹慎的點頭，
似乎這樣的回應顯得有些敷衍。
其實我是真的很謹慎，
社會化愈深，愈不容易真心的給人建議，尤其是點出別人的缺失，
因為不想得罪人，想當鄉愿。
我得到的建議，有些我認同，有些我需要再思考才能下判斷，
有些建議我就敬謝不敏了。
我不希望因過多的解釋及過度的反應，
而讓建議的聲音從我身邊消失，
因為謹慎所以安靜啊！
不論建議我認不認同，我都真心感謝！
給建議的人說：「妳太尊從自我了，妳的所學教妳要尊從自我，
但要留一些彈性，要懂得交際，對自己才是最好的。」
有人能夠這麼直接的給我建言，我挺感動的！
是啊！就算沒有讀這個科系，我的本性就是如此，
尊從自我可是要付出很大代價的呢，我不是沒吃過虧，不是沒有思考過。
我在彌補以前的缺憾，我放棄好的薪資、好的職務、離開城市來到鄉下，就是為了要找回自我。
我是該慢慢調整自己了，但現在，
我還想再任性一些時候，雖然這樣的我有時是很不討別人喜愛的，
但我喜歡這樣的自己，這樣的自己讓我安心，讓我自在。
當你們開始喜歡我的時候，我不確定自己也能夠喜歡你們喜歡的那個我。~
Thanks Judy for sharing this with me...... 謝謝Judy分享這篇
I can't say that I 100% agree with what it says here , but I do understand the point and where it comes from .... i do realise that i am , and i can be very bullheaded and impulsive sometimes ..... but am I self-centered .... ?? maybe a little bit , ...but I am not self-assertive ... that's why I can change my mind frequently ... I am too easy to be influenced ..according to a friend of mine ..... 我不能說我百分百同意這個說法 但是我了解他的意思 也知道重點是什麼 我很清楚知道我可以是非常非常任信固執的 我有時也很衝動 但是我是否很自我 或許是有一點 但是我不是一個武斷, 很能有信心表達自己看法的人 - 這也是為什麼我常常拿一件事去問很多人 我常常可以非常快的改變我的想法 我太容易被影響了 我的朋友說
I can be very sociable if I want to , but only with the person I feel like to be ... ha ha ... well, I used to be very sociable due to the job I had at that time , I had to socialise with a lot of customers .... then I was happy for a while thinking myself living a glamorous life ,was surrounded by a lot of friends .... feeling that I was the Miss Popular ,and was loved by many people .... feeling myself can do anything I want ... but to be sociable , I had to be more tolerant ... when I met people I didn't like , I still had to put a smile on my face and be SOCIABLE ..... I was bending my back backward trying to please many people , trying hard to create an image to fool myself and others ... finally , two years later , I was getting tired of it .... I quit my job and became a teacher .... the people I deal with everyday now are very different from the crowd I used to hang out with ... my life style has been changed ... I have become intolerant ... I don't want to spend too much of my time to please people who I can't care less , to make people think i am sociable or not .... but not wanting to be very socialble doesn't mean that I have to be be rude , so I am trying to be civilised , I do things that I know I have to do though I don't like ... for example , I would send flowers to someone in the hospital who I don't really care for , but I know that it's the right thing to do ....
I just no longer desire to try to MAKE more friends .... not that I don't like to have friends , but friendship is not something you can just get it like that ....and it's easy to find someone to keep you company ,just because you are lonely ..... and I am slowly making a few new friends through some activities I have been doing .... plus , I don't need many GOOD friends .... I am happy with these 4,5 friends I have ... people to share thoughts, sarrow , happiness with ..... I do think that we need to learn to be alone ..... to deal with loneliness
我可以變的很交際只要我想的話 但是現在我只對我想的人 哈哈 我曾經非常有交際手腕當多年前我因工作需要必須跟很多顧客打交道 對那時的我 我是很享受當時的感覺 我快樂了 一段時間 而且認為自己過著一種非常炫 五光十色的生活 被一群很 cool的朋友圍繞著 覺得自己是最受歡迎的 覺得好像被很多人喜愛 自己覺得可以做任何想要做的事 問題是 當你要變的很社交性 我就得學著變的更寬容 也就是當我遇到一個就算是我不喜歡的人 我還是得微笑 表現的很社交 我有陣子是拼命試著討好別人 試著依別人的喜好去做事 創造出一個形象來去欺騙我自己 欺騙別人 終於兩年後 我開始覺得累了 我離職當起老師來 現在我每天面對的人跟過去的對象非常不同 我的生活模式也有一些改變 但是也因此我變的不寬容 我不想花太多時間去在乎那些我不喜歡的人對我的看法 說我是不是不夠社交 我不想浪費太多時間去討好人 但是基本的禮貌 人情我還是會做 比如說我會送花給一個我不是很喜歡的人 但是因為他住院,因為他是我男友的朋友 我覺得這是我必須做的 不喜歡社交 不見得要沒禮貌
我只是不在有慾望去試著交更多朋友 不是我不喜歡與朋友相處 但是有時友誼不是說要找就找的到 若是只是因為孤單找一個伴 那還容易 另外 我也不需要很多好朋友 我很高興現在我有4,5個好友能分享我的想法 悲傷 及開心的事 有時人也得學習孤單 我覺得
like the article says .... I like who I am now ..... in the past , ( especially for the past 6 momths ) I realised that I made a lot of mistakes .... and I was not satisfied with the situations I was in at the time ...and I did not know what to do ... so I let my anger control me , I did things that I shouldn't have done ..... I learned my lessons ...
Thanks Judy for sharing this with me...... 謝謝Judy分享這篇
I can't say that I 100% agree with what it says here , but I do understand the point and where it comes from .... i do realise that i am , and i can be very bullheaded and impulsive sometimes ..... but am I self-centered .... ?? maybe a little bit , ...but I am not self-assertive ... that's why I can change my mind frequently ... I am too easy to be influenced ..according to a friend of mine ..... 我不能說我百分百同意這個說法 但是我了解他的意思 也知道重點是什麼 我很清楚知道我可以是非常非常任信固執的 我有時也很衝動 但是我是否很自我 或許是有一點 但是我不是一個武斷, 很能有信心表達自己看法的人 - 這也是為什麼我常常拿一件事去問很多人 我常常可以非常快的改變我的想法 我太容易被影響了 我的朋友說
I can be very sociable if I want to , but only with the person I feel like to be ... ha ha ... well, I used to be very sociable due to the job I had at that time , I had to socialise with a lot of customers .... then I was happy for a while thinking myself living a glamorous life ,was surrounded by a lot of friends .... feeling that I was the Miss Popular ,and was loved by many people .... feeling myself can do anything I want ... but to be sociable , I had to be more tolerant ... when I met people I didn't like , I still had to put a smile on my face and be SOCIABLE ..... I was bending my back backward trying to please many people , trying hard to create an image to fool myself and others ... finally , two years later , I was getting tired of it .... I quit my job and became a teacher .... the people I deal with everyday now are very different from the crowd I used to hang out with ... my life style has been changed ... I have become intolerant ... I don't want to spend too much of my time to please people who I can't care less , to make people think i am sociable or not .... but not wanting to be very socialble doesn't mean that I have to be be rude , so I am trying to be civilised , I do things that I know I have to do though I don't like ... for example , I would send flowers to someone in the hospital who I don't really care for , but I know that it's the right thing to do ....
I just no longer desire to try to MAKE more friends .... not that I don't like to have friends , but friendship is not something you can just get it like that ....and it's easy to find someone to keep you company ,just because you are lonely ..... and I am slowly making a few new friends through some activities I have been doing .... plus , I don't need many GOOD friends .... I am happy with these 4,5 friends I have ... people to share thoughts, sarrow , happiness with ..... I do think that we need to learn to be alone ..... to deal with loneliness
我可以變的很交際只要我想的話 但是現在我只對我想的人 哈哈 我曾經非常有交際手腕當多年前我因工作需要必須跟很多顧客打交道 對那時的我 我是很享受當時的感覺 我快樂了 一段時間 而且認為自己過著一種非常炫 五光十色的生活 被一群很 cool的朋友圍繞著 覺得自己是最受歡迎的 覺得好像被很多人喜愛 自己覺得可以做任何想要做的事 問題是 當你要變的很社交性 我就得學著變的更寬容 也就是當我遇到一個就算是我不喜歡的人 我還是得微笑 表現的很社交 我有陣子是拼命試著討好別人 試著依別人的喜好去做事 創造出一個形象來去欺騙我自己 欺騙別人 終於兩年後 我開始覺得累了 我離職當起老師來 現在我每天面對的人跟過去的對象非常不同 我的生活模式也有一些改變 但是也因此我變的不寬容 我不想花太多時間去在乎那些我不喜歡的人對我的看法 說我是不是不夠社交 我不想浪費太多時間去討好人 但是基本的禮貌 人情我還是會做 比如說我會送花給一個我不是很喜歡的人 但是因為他住院,因為他是我男友的朋友 我覺得這是我必須做的 不喜歡社交 不見得要沒禮貌
我只是不在有慾望去試著交更多朋友 不是我不喜歡與朋友相處 但是有時友誼不是說要找就找的到 若是只是因為孤單找一個伴 那還容易 另外 我也不需要很多好朋友 我很高興現在我有4,5個好友能分享我的想法 悲傷 及開心的事 有時人也得學習孤單 我覺得
like the article says .... I like who I am now ..... in the past , ( especially for the past 6 momths ) I realised that I made a lot of mistakes .... and I was not satisfied with the situations I was in at the time ...and I did not know what to do ... so I let my anger control me , I did things that I shouldn't have done ..... I learned my lessons ...
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