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根據諾貝爾獎得主Daniel Kahneman 的說法, 我們每天大約經歷兩萬個時刻 每個"時刻"只有短短幾秒鐘 而且烙印在腦海中的鮮少是中性的事件 ----幾乎必然是正面或負面的 有時候他人一次的互動 就可能永遠改變你或別人的人生
According to Nobel Prize-Winning scientist Daniel Kahneman, we experience approximately 20,000 individual moments in a waking day .Each " Moment" lasts a few seconds. And rarely does a neutral encounter stay in your mind -- the momorable moments are almost always positive or negative . In some cases, a single encounter can change your life forever .
當然意義如此深遠的時刻並不多 但既使是 正向心理學家發現日常正向經驗的發生頻率非常重要 婚姻研究的先驅 John Gotman 更提出了五比一的黃金比例--意指正面互動與負面互動的最佳比例應為五比一Gotman說, 夫妻正負面互動的比例若接近五比一 婚姻成功的機率很高 若趨近一比一 恐怕會已離婚收場
Of course, our moments are this profound, but even less memorable interactions are important. Positive Psychology experts are finding that John Gottman's pioneering research on marriages suggests there is a " magic ratio " of 5 to 1 -- in terms of our balance of positive to negative interactions. Gottman found that marriages are significantly more likely to succeed when the couple's interactions are near that 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative. When the ratio approaches 1 to 1, marriages " cascade to divorce ."
再一次很有趣的研究裡 Gottman與兩位數學家合作測試這個模型 他們從1992年開始 募集了700對新婚夫妻 錄下每一對的談話情形 (時間為15分鐘) 計算兩人正負互動次數 然後依據五比一的比例原則預測夫妻是否會離婚 十年後 Gottman追蹤這些夫妻已印證當初的預測是否準確 結果非常驚人 準確率竟高達94%--當初依據的只是短短15分鐘的交談
In a fascinating study , Gottman teamed up with two mathematicians to test this model . Starting in 1992, they recruited 700 couples who had just received their marriage licenses. For each couple, the researchers videotaped a 15-minute conversation between husband and wife and counted the number of positive and negative interactions . Then , based on the 5 to 1 ratio, they predicted whether each couple would stay together or divorce . Ten years later, Gottman and his colleagues followed up with each couple to determine the accuracy of their original predictions. The results were stunning . They had predicted divorce with 94% accuracy -- based on scoring the couples' interactions for 15 minutes .
正面的態度必須建立在現實的基礎上 完全忽略負面因素可能導致 偽樂觀 不僅不利生產力的提升 甚至會造成很大的困擾 有時候思索如何矯正錯誤與改善缺點是绝對必要的
" Positivity must be grounded in reality " A " Pollyanna" approach, in which the negative is completely ignored, can result in a false optimism that is counterproductive -- and sometimes downright annoying . There are times when it's absolutely necessary to correct our mistakes and figure out how to manage our weaknesses .
According to Nobel Prize-Winning scientist Daniel Kahneman, we experience approximately 20,000 individual moments in a waking day .Each " Moment" lasts a few seconds. And rarely does a neutral encounter stay in your mind -- the momorable moments are almost always positive or negative . In some cases, a single encounter can change your life forever .
當然意義如此深遠的時刻並不多 但既使是 正向心理學家發現日常正向經驗的發生頻率非常重要 婚姻研究的先驅 John Gotman 更提出了五比一的黃金比例--意指正面互動與負面互動的最佳比例應為五比一Gotman說, 夫妻正負面互動的比例若接近五比一 婚姻成功的機率很高 若趨近一比一 恐怕會已離婚收場
Of course, our moments are this profound, but even less memorable interactions are important. Positive Psychology experts are finding that John Gottman's pioneering research on marriages suggests there is a " magic ratio " of 5 to 1 -- in terms of our balance of positive to negative interactions. Gottman found that marriages are significantly more likely to succeed when the couple's interactions are near that 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative. When the ratio approaches 1 to 1, marriages " cascade to divorce ."
再一次很有趣的研究裡 Gottman與兩位數學家合作測試這個模型 他們從1992年開始 募集了700對新婚夫妻 錄下每一對的談話情形 (時間為15分鐘) 計算兩人正負互動次數 然後依據五比一的比例原則預測夫妻是否會離婚 十年後 Gottman追蹤這些夫妻已印證當初的預測是否準確 結果非常驚人 準確率竟高達94%--當初依據的只是短短15分鐘的交談
In a fascinating study , Gottman teamed up with two mathematicians to test this model . Starting in 1992, they recruited 700 couples who had just received their marriage licenses. For each couple, the researchers videotaped a 15-minute conversation between husband and wife and counted the number of positive and negative interactions . Then , based on the 5 to 1 ratio, they predicted whether each couple would stay together or divorce . Ten years later, Gottman and his colleagues followed up with each couple to determine the accuracy of their original predictions. The results were stunning . They had predicted divorce with 94% accuracy -- based on scoring the couples' interactions for 15 minutes .
正面的態度必須建立在現實的基礎上 完全忽略負面因素可能導致 偽樂觀 不僅不利生產力的提升 甚至會造成很大的困擾 有時候思索如何矯正錯誤與改善缺點是绝對必要的
" Positivity must be grounded in reality " A " Pollyanna" approach, in which the negative is completely ignored, can result in a false optimism that is counterproductive -- and sometimes downright annoying . There are times when it's absolutely necessary to correct our mistakes and figure out how to manage our weaknesses .
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