Tanya & Hua Loo Loo in Switzerland

 ( This reminds me that P said that Michelle and him think that Chinese don't know how to encourage people , we often use criticism
 to impel people  to do things ..and he says that we only see the negative side of his... wonder why?! Looks like it's not only Chinese who focus on negative things and I really hate hearing people giving comments such as  "we, westerners don't do this ..or that ...and you Chinese .... blah blah ... " ) 

  Unfortunately, parents get caught up in the “ How can I get my kid into college? “ race instead of first considering what’s best for the development of their sons or daughters. This isn’t to say that parents should ignore the F in Algebra. But why not start with a positive focus on the A’s before working on strategies for improving the F?  If parents at least began these discussions on a more positive note , it could make for a more productive conversation .

 At least when students graduate and enter the working world, they have the opportunity to do what they want – right? This is their time to pursue their grand passions. Well, that may be true for a select few. Unfortunately, the majority of young people aren’t selected for their first job on the basis of how well their natural talents fit their role.

Think back to your first career-oriented job, and see if this scenario sounds familiar: Essentially, you were hired for a job, then you were expected to change who you were to fit the role . If you struggled, then you may have had to endure a “ competency” program designed to “fix the problem” . the weakness-based approach follows us through our lives, from school to the workplace . 
不久前蓋洛普在許多國家進行一項研究, 調查父母對孩子成績最好與最差科目的注意程度  假設孩子的成績單如下: 英語 – A , 社會- A , 生物-C, 代數-F .哪一個科目最值得你關注? 結果每個國家的絕大多數父母都選擇成績是F的哪一科  遺憾的是父母往往陷入”怎樣才能讓孩子上大學”的競賽裡, 卻忽略了應該先關心子女最適合發展的方向是什麼 這並不是說父母應該忽略成績F的科目, 但為什麼不先稱許成績好的科目,然後在討論如何改善成績差的科目? 如此必然有助於建立更正面的談話基調  

你可能會說 至少學生畢業進入職場時就會有機會發展自己的志向 一展抱負 – 不是嗎 ? 事實上只有少數幸運兒是如此  大多數年輕人的第一份工作並不是取決於他的才華  

你不妨回想起自己第一份真正當作事業的工作  看看下面的敘述是否很熟悉 :